sims never do what i say the first time

does anyone else have the same problem? after playing for a year now, it feels like my sims rarely do the interaction I tell them to the first time, unless I spam it repeatedly. they just feel almost...unresponsive. this was a problem before but I really notice it with the infants update. the baby is crying and needs its diaper changed and my sim just stands there cradling it and bouncing it like nothing is going on, causing so much more time to be taken to manually queue the right action. it's like the sim isn't even holding its own baby. oh, and also vlc.onl/ by the time I get the sim to do what I was asking, its like 5 AM in game. I want to love this game but the amount of bugs that need fixing make it so firetrucking unplayable.