Two annoying glitches with posing... Please help!

Hello. I am new to posing with S4S and blender..
I have the controls and most things under control at this point but I have two huge issues.

1. I will make a pose in blender (group pose or couple pose) and it will look fine before I put it in game. THEN When I put it in game, the people get broken up and their positions get distorted and its a mess.. 

Here is the screenshots

i.imgur.com/oFrYVJl.png


The broken pose

i.imgur.com/rGF5gQK.png


My 2nd problem which I'm not sure if they're related is that I will make a pose in blender with a certain rotation and position but when I copy it and then paste it to a blank rig it has a completely different xyz, such as the pose will be standing in a certain place but when pasted to blank its floating in the air or in some weird wonky location.

I have tried so many ways to fix these two things and NOTHING I have tried works.. As I said I am very new to this and very lost as well.

My S4S version is 3.1.1.5 (Wishes) Andrews Pose Player is up to date and my Blender version is 2.70 plus my game is perfectly up to date and repaired..

I would low key sell my soul to fix these issues at this point lol