Everytime I click "create 3D Mesh" and edit...it does't show

Ok, soooo...there is this skirt that I loveeeee but it's wayyy to alpha for my liking, so I decided to export the dds into PS6 and completely rexture and recolor it, and tweak it a bit from photoshop..so from the beginning, I open S4S, click "create 3D mesh", I go into the custom menu and pick the alpha skirt that I want, export and edit. now once I am done, I import it into s4s, dXt5 and all that good stuff, (this is not the first piece of CC to publish) and I go to test it in my game and it's not there! I mean the thumbnail is in the game but it just doesn't show up in my game. I have looked everywhere and every post I have found says that I can include the mesh in an edit if I click on "create 3D mesh"..so why is it acting like I clicked create a standalone?? the skirt works if I have the original alpha package file in my mods folder. BUT THE WHOLE POINT IS NOT NEEDING THE MESH. I am so confused!! by the time I finish working and changing the skirt, it doesn't look anthing like the alpha version, that's why I want to publish this CC with the mesh included because it's my work and my mesh editing and I feel as though it is appropriate. 


I was almost positive that you could include the mesh in a rexture/recolor/mesh edit if you click "create 3d mesh" … do I need blender? because I don't use blender, I don't know how to use blender..i do all things in PS6....I hope I was articulate enough that someone out there understands my problem..